HALT

When I was at my Therapist this last Tuesday  He gave me a little exercise to do when i feel like I am getting angry.  HALT
Hungry
Anxious
Lonely
Tired

Anytime I feel as though I have Anger building up I need to take the time to see if I am each one of these things instead.  The whole point really is taking the time to self analyze before I act out in anger.  I have found that  most likely I am experiencing one or more of these feelings when I am angry.  Sometimes all of them.  WHat I Feel I am really going through is Grief.  I have never experienced grief like this before.  Grief over loss I understand.  Dealing with adultery is different.  Gina is still here.  She has not left.  I cannot lay my finger on exactly what it is I have lost but I feel like I have had an amputation without anesthetic.  I weep uncontrollably at very inconvenient time.  I find myself spacing out for several minutes at a time.   I imagine it could be PSTD.

I really want it to stop now.  I Want to be strong.  I want to have control over my emotions.  I want to do good work at my job and enjoy my work.  I want Joy in my life..,

Loneliness is the hardest feeling for me to overcome.  I really do not have a close friend to help anymore.  At least not until my relationship with Gina heals more.

God, Help me with Loneliness,  Help my to be strong and have Joy in my life.  Lord, please give me a better outlook about work,  Please help me top stay focused on my work and not zone out.  Lord I need to be focused and in the moment at all times.  Please Forgive me of me sins.  Help me to overcome the bizzare dreams I have been having.  Please keep me from forming inappropriate relationships while I am so lonely.

Lord, please guide and protect Gina.  please bring her back to me as a Wife, Lover, friend.  Help us to have a a better relationship than we did before,  grounded in Love for Jesus Christ.  

Lord please Guide and protect Halbert.  Please help him to grow strong in his faith.  Please keep him from placing his faith in anyone but Jesus.  Please Forgive his sins and keep him from great sin in the future.  Please help him to have joy in his life and not be depressed like me.  Lord he knows what is going on.  Please uphold his spirit.  Please help him to forgive his parents who are both sinners in need of grace.

TIM

Call to arms

I have been considering Spiritual Warfare a lot lately obviously..  Satan has attacked me and my family viciously in the last year and a half.   We neglected the Ordinary means of grace.  We stopped going to church, Missed out on the teaching of the word of God. Missed out on the Sacraments.  Satan has almost killed my family.  Its time to take the offensive.  We Will study the scriptures.  We will pray together.  We will go to church and worship God in spirit and truth.  We will take Communion.  We will Stand up against the enemy of our souls no matter what.  even if it means we look really strange to others.  We will overcome sin in our lives through the powers of the Holy Spirit indwells us.  God has done it.  Satan is already a defeated enemy.  God wills this.

Dear God please stand between my Wife and anyone who would tempt her to sin.  Lord,  Unbelievers  love to watch and participate in the failures and sins of your elect.   Rebuke them Lord.  Strike them down.  I am serious here.  I am looking for either some hardcore smiting or supernatural miraculous grace.  You know who I am calling this down on God.  Lord I am not testing your.  Your will be done.  I am asking for a miracle.  Lord In Matthew you said Blessed are those who Mourn for they will be Comforted.  Lord in your time you will have either justice or grace on these people.  Please give me a sign, Comfort me Lord.  I Love You.  Hold My Hand.

Lord I ask that you guard Halbert.  Come the  enemy away from him.  I especially ask the you would keep him away from Porn.

Lord Make me Strong in your word.  Fill me up so that I can serve others out of the overflow of your love.  Make me a warrior instead of a victim.  Lord Please heal me from grief and anger.  Especially anger Lord.  Help me to Love.  Love covers a multitude of sins

Tim

Get up and walk

Ok so I had a failure.  Today I Got up and went to work and moved on.  Thank you God for the strength to Move on.

The Last time we were im Matthew we were in chapter 4 where Jesus calls the first of the Apostles.  Follow me and I will make you fisherrs of Men.  Peter, Andrew, James and John are called up and immediatley repond.  Sometime I wonder if they were already familiar with Jesus and were waiting to be asked.   Jesus began his ministry with many miracles of healing to go along with his teaching.  I believe in the supernatural claims of the Bible.  The Miracles were signs which proved the truth that jesus taught,  He drew large crowds so that sets ther scene for the sermon on the mount and the beatitudes.

My extended family has really been a great support for me in the last several weeks.  I have fealt so alone being such a great distance from them while this great trial has hit me and Gina. They have called me and been available 24/7 for me to talk to and has really helped.  Thanks especially to mom.

Please pray for my friend Darby who is also going through a really tough time right now.

I Pray that God will help my little family to heal.  I love them so much and I know they love me and had forgiven me.  Love covers a multitude of Sin.

Btw I put a link to a great song here.  Lousy theology,  Great song

Failure

Today I had really serious set back.  I completely lost my temper and lashed out in anger.  God please forgive me. I Am a sinner.  Do I ever really have the right to be angry?  Paul Says in your anger do not sin.  The implication is that Christians will have anger at times.  How can I Have anger and not sin.  Anger is not a fruit of the spirit.  I have never found a way to express my self about anger and not somehow end up sinning.  I am supposed to be building myself and my family up.  not tearing down.

God please forgive me.  Please help me to find the right way to deal with my anger.  Please protect me from the enemy of my soul.  Please protect me from my own sinful nature.  Cause me to turn to you for all things.  Please draw me kicking and screaming to your throne if you have to but please do not turn me over to My anger.

Please forgive my vulgarity and taking your name in vane. Please cleanse my of all unrighteousness.  Please give me an even temper, wisdom, and a clean heart.  Please help Halbert through this time..  Please Guide and protect Gina in all things.  Lord God she loves you.  Thank you for that.

Jesus we were reminded today that you are still Fully man.  Please hold my hand.

Temptation, weakness, prayer

So here we are at Matthew Chapter 4.  Jesus was led into the dessert to be tempted by the Devil.  I think a lot of people smirk at that because they don't really believe in a person or creature,  in other words a real Devil.   I have to say that I do believe in the devil. I know he is real.  I have been tormented by that creature enough to recognize him by now.  He attacks me where I am the weakest,  my tendency to put my faith in other people than Jesus Christ, my anger.  my use of porn.   I have been so overwhelmed with anger as to become irrational.  I have had to speak out loud. "God rebuke you Satan"!  I probably sound insane by now but that's OK.  I am just saying I have experienced Satan.  I have never seen him in person or heard his voice audibly.  If I ever did I may consider getting my meds adjusted.

Jesus, on the other hand,  did meet with Satan in the flesh after fasting for 40 days and nights.  Satan attempted to get him where he would be the weakest, hunger.  He then attacked him I think with Pride.  Basically he said throw yourself down and the angels will affirm your status as the Son of God before men. lastly He tempted him by offering the splendor of worldly greatness without the sacrifice he knew he would have to make.  Jesus responded to all with the book of Deuteronomy.  It was the sword of the spirit the word of God which defeated him.

I am hoping to start singing in the church choir at 2nd Pres in Greenville, SC.  I sang for a short while at Woodruff RD Pres. and enjoyed it.  In the end I let it go for no really good reason other than being generally down.

I am Praying now for God to help my by upholding my spirit through all things.  I need to be able to minister to others.  I am told by my Pastor Robert Spears that I can minister to others through the over flow of Christs love and work in my own life.  I need to lay claim everyday to Christ alone for my self worth.  He made me and sustains me through all things..

Lord help me to overcome the pain of adultery,  Help me to forgive,  Rebuke the devil--Protect me and my family.  Help me to achieve great things for Jesus sake.  Lord please use me to bring the lost to saving faith in Jesus Christ

Holy Spirit, you lead Jesus to the desert to be tempted, you protected him and through you he defeated the devil.  Please bring me through the desert, protect me , help me to overcome the enemy of my soul.

Matthew Me and Gina

Well here we are on day 2 of my blogging experiment.  Today I read the 1st 5 chapters of the book of Matthew.  A few things caught my attention.  John the Baptist.  what a strange fellow.  The last of the old testament style prophets.  John  came preaching repentance for sin through the sign of water baptism.  The Jews use baptism as a sign for a gentile when he converts to become a Jew..  Essentially John was saying to the Jewish people that they had to repent and become true believers again.  the pharisees would not participate because they would not acknowledge their own need to repent and saw no reason to reaffirm there faith since they were saved by their works.  Jesus on the other hand submitted to Baptism even though he himself was sinless and had no need.  He said 'It is proper to do this to fulfill all righteousness".  he was confirming John's call to baptize as a sign of what is right.  To fail to be baptized would have been less than fully good therefore it would have been a sin not too.  God the father and the Holy Spirit attended the occasion and gave a sign.

On the personal side. Today was a better day for me.  I have been going through a terrible amount of anxiety and grief for the last month  My hands are not shaking nearly as much any more and the crying has become less often and severe.

I think that I cry so much because it is a less destructive outlet than anger.  I fear anger in myself.  I make myself angry I think in order to justify myself.  I guess people just do that.  I am not allowed to be angry.  i am 6'7" and weigh 330.  I intimidate people just by breathing.  Everytime I have allowed myself to be angry in front of other people I have regretted it.  

My prayer right now is that God would help me to grow in Jesus.  So that I can get my strength and self worth through my relationship with him alone.  I don't know how things will turn out.  But I am loved by the creator of the universe.  Dear GOD please give me joy, Bless my Family.  Bless my wife.  Please forgive us.  We are sinners.

Gina-Beautiful

This is Gina.  My favorite wife.  We met at college back in 1987.  We were good friends for about 5 years and then started going together in 1992.  We married on 12/4/1993, one of the very best days of my life.  

I think I will continue a bit with Matthew tomorrow.  The Temptation of Jesus and the beginning of the Sermon on the mount await.

Getting started

OK, here we go.  This is me. Tim Schulting.  44 year old aparatchit with the Social Security administration.  If I end up doing this a lot then you the reader will notice that I am a terrible typist and worst speller.

I guess we start with the basics.  I am married for 18 years to my lovely wife Gina. I am the father of a great 16 year old boy Halbert.  Soon I will figure out how to post their pictures.  

My life has been extremely turbulent in the last several weeks.  I am not really at liberty to explain how and why but the effect is that I have been forced to do some serious soul searching.  Funny how we only seem to do that when we have too.  Anyway,  I thought I would start by committing some words to the ether.  

I will probably be talking a lot about biblical topics.  I soul search in the Bible.  I hope to learn how to deal with personal anger, sorrow, depression, and live with hope, joy and blessedness.  I will try to write a little everyday.  If I ever sound too preachy or silly please be patient.